Man Cancels Wedding Last Minute, Only to Beg Girlfriend to Come Back and Live With Him

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 22, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. Relationships take many turns. We all have our set ways of communication, expressing ourselves, feeling loved, and emotional attachment. Trying to orchestrate these things with someone else is never easy, especially when life's spontaneous struggles surprise us out of nowhere. You may feel happy and stable with someone, like everything is perfect and you've finally found the one. But people will show their true colors eventually, and when they do it can be an earth shattering shock.

This brings us to the Reddit piece. The couple is seemingly happy, content, and engaged to be married. Everything seems to be going smoothly, until suddenly the man tells his fiancee he wants to cancel the wedding. When she tries to confront him about it, he dismisses her. After she's begging him to come back to her, he finally says he wants to still live together, though they have no plans for marriage. What a guy. 

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  • 01
    TWO HOT TAKE r/TwoHotTakes ⚫ 13 hr. a ThrowRAloopp My 28F fiancé 35 m cancelled our wedding suddenly, but now wants to stay together. What do I do now?
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  • 02
    Basically, the title says it all we were set to marry at the end of this month and suddenly he wanted to cancel it. And it is cancelled now.
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  • 03
    Things were going really good between us for the most part. I was planning this wedding all summer. It was all new to me and I was very excited. He seemed really excited about the wedding, even made comments about being excited to have a wife and being super affectionate, super accommodating
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  • 04
    to my wishes... and then suddenly he changed.. I don't exactly know why I think we were both stressed and bickering a little more than usual and it seemed like he just kind of snapped.
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  • 05
    Normally when we have disagreements, we bounce back pretty quickly so it was just out-of- pocket for me and shocking. I guess I should've left him alone because every day I was asking him what happened and trying to figure out what we were gonna do and he'd just yell at me that he
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  • 06
    wanted to be alone and live alone, and it seemed like that made it so much worse, was when I'd try to communicate.
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  • 07
    I was such a mess and so confused and cried constantly, and it seemed like he didn't care at all that he was hurting me so badly. I literally couldn't hardly function at all.. I had to call into work and I just couldn't eat or sleep.
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    And I was begging him to please think things through because there are kids involved and how much we've been through in the last handful of years together.
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  • 09
    I was even praying and hoping for a change of heart, but every time I approached the subject it seemed like he was just adamant on wanting to be alone. There's a couple times where he said he wanted to think things through, but then he would still come to the same conclusion.
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  • 10
    He started apologizing the other day and telling me I didn't need to rush into a place to live (I had to move out),and then not long after he told me he doesn't want me to move out at all now.
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  • 11
    I still feel resentful and stressed and scared and confused because the wedding as of now still isn't happening. I was of course happy to hear that he was starting to come around, but I wondered if it was out of guilt because I was doing all these nice things for him.
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  • 12
    and I asked him last night what we're gonna do about things, if we were still going to be married, and he said for now he doesn't wanna do it so I feel like we just took a bunch of steps backwards again. I don't know if this is normal for someone to get cold feet and just end things just like that or what.
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  • 13
    It's just been so hard to deal with and I love him a lot and the thought of not being together has been devastating but I still feel like he's not into me anymore. the whole thing is taken a toll on my self-esteem. It still doesn't feel good between us and I keep hoping time will heal all of this.
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  • 14
    I had given up, before he apologized, and was looking at places to live and everything. I'm still not sure if I should stay or go. I know everyone told me he would regret this decision and that I should just pursue leaving so that he could see what he screwed up, but that's just very hard for me to
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  • 15
    leave with the intent of making him regret it. I feel like if I actually do leave it needs to be with the intent of it's actually just done and it won't matter how he ends up feeling ...
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    and I know that if I move out, that will absolutely be the end of everything. but at the same time part of me does want to stay stay and see things through it just has really hurt how he's approached this.. I'm not sure what to do.
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    • helikasp 13h ago You should leave. On his whim you are to, plan a wedding, be satisfied with it being canceled with no reason or notice, go, stay, continue a relationship with him, pretend you're happy to raise kids
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    with a man who won't marry you. When are you going to do what you want and react the way you feel? If you leave you don't actually "know" that the whole thing is over. But if you stay you're telling this
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    man you'll stay with him no matter how he treats you and your emotions
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    speakstheminds... 13h ago Girl that is a lot of words to say your boyfriend is suspicious as and being very wishy-washy.
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    Just walk away from that crazy. mess. Sure you made mistakes but there is something going on and I can. guarantee you you don't want to be there for that. He's not going to marry you.
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    gobsmacked247 • 13h ago Don't leave with the intent of making him regret it. Leave because you have respect for yourself and don't want to spend anymore time with someone who doesn't love you enough.
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    Ru... 13h ago • Edited 13h ago Oh no! Rather than discuss the issue and work it out the wedding got called off?
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    But you're supposed to stick around now. Suck his wash his underpants? Do all the housework? No ma'am. You pack your up, move out and cut all contact. He does not get to waste all of your youth
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  • 25
    dangling the ever limp and moldy carrot of a wedding to keep you the bang-maid. Are the children involved perchance HIS kids? That you've been nurturing while. he's scratching his on the sofa? Because this whole
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    thing SCREAMS lazy man realizes free Nanny is leaving his trifling Have some dignity.
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    bopperbopper • 13h ago Don't give him wifely support at girlfriend prices.
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    "I respect your decision to stop the wedding and I'm glad you did it before we got married. However, I don't want to be in a relationship where I'm not a just an "I guess". yes" and
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  • 29
    "I will be staying here until the lease is up and Will be treating arrangement like roommates, who live independently." Or if you're not, on the lease then move out
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  • 30
    So you stop shopping, cooking, cleaning for him and no intimacy.
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